It’s the time of the year again, and a lot of people will be making their same old new year resolutions, and then almost immediately, break them.
Well, because new year resolutions are just wishful thinking:
“I’m going to make my first 1000 bucks online.”
“I’m going to exercise twice a week.”
“I’m going to go on a diet to slim down.”
We all know that these goals are not going to happen because:
(1) they are not going to become habits;
(2) no one is going to make time and priority for them, and
(3) unless someone is putting his or her act together to start doing something, nothing is going to happen, AT ALL.
By the way, how many times have you heard other people saying that New Year resolutions are just complete waste of time?
So it’s time to STOP making resolutions, and START taking massive action instead.
If you want to succeed this year, here are the three life advice you need to learn before you do anything else:
1. Start Building the Habit
We are creatures of habit. Every new goal is like a new direction, which requires a new habit. When some things are new, they are going to bring a little discomfort to your life. After you get the hang of it, you will find yourself moving towards your goal very soon.
Patience is the key!
If you want to master playing the piano, you probably need to start building the habit. For example, setting aside time to play your piano – maybe 30 minutes of practice everyday. The same goes with learning a new language, or writing that novel of yours.
Everything takes time, and most importantly, commitment.
If you do not make small commitments to work on your goals, then what makes you think you will be taking massive action to accomplish your ambition in the near future?
2. Be Ready to Make Sacrifices
Like it or not, our environment subtly influences us. If you want to achieve your goals, you need to be ready to make sacrifices to remove all possible distractions.
If you want to have a super-toned, slim and fit body, you have to sacrifice your fish-and-chips, fried noodles, and some quality time with your beer buddies. You may also need to get rid of those junk food from your refrigerator, or cancel your Netflix or cable TV just to get more beauty sleep at night.
Meanwhile, you can also increase the amount of opportunity for you to build the new habit in order to fulfil your goals.
(i) Filling up your fridge with healthy food,
(ii) Download that distraction-free software on your computer so that you can write without the temptation to check on your Facebook news feeds, or
(iii) Changing the language on your mobile phone to the language you are trying to learn so that you are always practicing.
Just remember, real change requires much sacrifices.
3. Surround Yourself With People Who Want To Succeed As Much As You Do
With commitment in place and distractions out of the way, it is time for you to surround yourself with people who want to succeed as much as you do.
For those of you who desire to be fitter and look better, this could mean joining a Fitness Club, signing up a Gym Membership, or be part of the Yoga Class during the weekends. The main aim is to associate with like-minded people who are encouraging, affirming, and supportive of your goals and vision.
The saying goes, “We become the average of the people we associate most with.” This is the truth. We are subtly influenced by people whom we choose to associate with.
If we associate with negative people who think they will never amount to anything much, guess what we would become in the end? You’re right, we would become just like them.
So be sure to be in the council of these four types of people in your life:
i) Your Mentors
People who have succeeded and the ones whom you would like to model after.
ii) Your Peers
People who are at the same level as you, so as to keep each other accountable.
iii) Your Juniors
People who are less experienced than you so that you can teach them what you know. You might just learn something from them along the way.
iv) Your Challengers
People who push and challenge you to be different, to take risks, and to get out of your comfort zone.
Therefore, when you have a goal in mind, do not do it alone, but find a group of supportive people as allies to help you along your journey.
Stay committed and do your utmost best to eradicate all possible distractions in your path!
What about you? What are the habits you are working on in this brand new year?
Share it in the comments below!